Mutually gay
I am BLACK & GAY... They are NOT mutually exclusive!
- rbltheory
- Jun 9, 2020
- 3 min read
Welcome to my world... A scant years ago, I had this thought to start a blog/website, but never found the courage to create until about a month ago. I mind it would be a joyous moment and though it still can be, it has a different meaning now.
Over the past month, I have watched videos of the murders of Ahmaud Arbery and George Floyd, listened to the news about Breonna Taylor and Tony McDade. In the midst of feeling grief, ire, and hopelessness for myself as a Black woman, and the suffering of the entire Ebony community, protests began. Then somehow, the calendar turned and we found ourselves in June. Many of my adjacent friends and family will tell you that June is a month I normally celebrate my heart out. I get to be unapologetically gay, just as gay as I want to be. However, this year things are so different...
As a young Black chick, I knew promptly on I was different. What did this different stare like? As a second grader, I couldn't put my finger on it, didn't have a name for it. Yes, you browse that right. Second grade, I idea my teacher was beautiful. Did I
Is it possible to contain a successful open lgbtq+ relationship? Absolutely! But it will take deliberate perform, intentional conversations, trust and time.
Now I know that everyone has their hold personal beliefs about what relationship structure (monogamous, non-monogamous, open relationship and everything in between) works for them. In this share I will define some terms, offer insight and then give you questions to consider so that you can make your own decisions.
After all, the only person who can decide what type of relationship structure is right for you- is you!
The terms
Before I dive too deep into this topic, I want to explain some terms that I will use in request to make sure we’re all on the identical page. There are many different types of uncover relationships.
Monogamous relationship
In the Joined States, like heteronormativity, monogamous relationships are the unspoken norm. There are very few examples of victorious open relationships depicted in mainstream media. Name one popular romantic comedy about an open relationship. You probably can’t. Sex outside your relationship is often called cheating or it’s deemed immoral and assumed to be the
To celebrate Pride Month, we are sharing some of the LGBTQ+ research taking place in our Department at the moment.
A study published in The Sociological Review earlier this year found that one’s social class has a large role in shaping how one performs closeness within a relationship.
Co-authored by DPhil scholar See Pok Loa and Susanne Y.P. Choi of the Chinese University of Hong Kong, the study compared how working- and middle-class gay men assembled relationship ideals, navigated the process of relationship formation, and maintained relationships.
Previous explore has linked social class to association outcomes (such as a couple’s transition into marriage and marital stability). However, little has been done to link social class with the processes and mechanisms by which individuals develop and maintain intimate relationships.
To address this, the paper conducted in-depth interviews with 38 gay men from Hong Kong. Half of the participants were working-class, while the other half were middle-class.
To examine the relationship between social class and intimacy, Loa and Choi introduced a framework of ‘intimacy fields’, building on Bourdieu's work and the concept o
Why do so many same-sex attracted couples open up their relationships?
As gay men, we’ve been through a lot.
For so many years we were deep in the closet, fearful of existence arrested, and threatened with pseudo-medical cures.
Then came the Stonewall uprising, the declassification of homosexuality as a psychiatric disorder, and the defeat of sodomy laws. And finally, the legalization of gay marriage.
Now—at least in some parts of the world — we’re free to live our lives exactly like everyone else. No one gets to tell us how to live, whom to love, or what we can or can’t perform in the bedroom. We alone call the shots.
Then again, maybe we’re not as free as we think. Ever wonder why so many of us open our relationships? Are we always really deciding for ourselves how we want to live?
Or are we sometimes on autopilot, blithely following expectations and norms of which we aren’t even aware, ignorant to the possible consequences?
Spring, 1987: Although I didn’t know it at the time, my own introduction to the world of gay relationships was obeying a script that countless gay men have lived.
Growing up in that era, there were no seeable gay relationships, no role models. Astoundingly, a queer por