First time gay top

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Here are some immediate tips and tricks from ACON’s Peer Education team that will get you topping those bottoms enjoy a pro in no time.

1. Foreplay before play

When topping for the first time it can be intimidating so we endorse building a lot of trust with your boyfriend by exploring each other’s bodies through foreplay before starting insertive sex.

2. Communicate the talk

Communication is incredibly important when you are topping, particularly if it’s for the first period. Get comfortable checking in with your partner and asking them how they liked to be fucked. (do they need foreplay? Do they need to be fingered?) Equally, if you know there is something that your loved one does that makes you rock hard then inquire for it!

While you are talking about what gets you and your partner’s engines going, why don’t you include what sort of HIV prevention methods you want to be using? Slip in that you are using PrEP or an undetectable viral load – or maybe that you are looking to use condoms. Whatever it is you choose to use, yo

Life on the Bottom

I enjoyed a short-lived career on the bottom. My college boyfriend’s family lived in a duplex on Park Street, where we’d often slip away on weekends. Meals were rich and plentiful — foie gras, profiteroles, double magnums of Riesling, etc. — all of which I eagerly imbibed. Following one such decadent feast my freshman year, when we were still very much in the honeymoon phase of our first gay relationship, Dan and I retired to his bedroom and got to work. For weeks we’d been easing into penetration with me on the bottom, but the pain had proven prohibitive. Also at play was acute paranoia of involuntary defecation, something I’d been assured was a common, yet unwarranted, concern of bottoms.

Presumably though, most surveyed hadn’t recently gorged on three helpings of fattened goose liver. It’s difficult to look someone in the eye after shitting their childhood bed — let alone date them for seven more years afterward — but that’s exactly what happened. What didn’t happen — and hasn’t since, really — was me back on the bottom.

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Maybe that’s why I’ve maintained an enviable respect for men and women who regularly get fucke

The ins and outs of safer, greater sex.

I’m scared of bottoming

Most gay men will think about bottoming at some hour. However, the thought of doing it for the first time can be scary. Don’t let that put you off. 

You may prefer to douche before bottoming, especially if indulging in deep arse perform like fisting or with large dicks/toys. Use plain, clean water, preferably at body temperature. Avoid using shower attachments - the water pressure can be dangerous. You can obtain douche bulbs online or from any good sex shop. Try not to go overboard and irritate the lining of your arse, as this can make you more vulnerable to STIs.

Get yourself relaxed with lots of foreplay like rimming or fingering. Some men do utilize amyl nitrate (poppers) to relax the muscles around their arse but there are two major health warnings. Poppers:

  • have been linked with an increased peril of HIV transmission 
  • don’t mix with erection drugs fond of Viagra and may produce a heart attack.

Deep breathing is far safer, helps you to relax and relaxes the arse too.

Find a position that suits the size, angle and curvature of your partner’s dick. Any position where your knees are bent and drawn into your chest, whethe

Forced To Bottom: The Men Who Can’t Top Due To Erectile Dysfunction

“You’re not a real top.”

Those words may have been uttered to Alan many years ago. But they are words that he would never forget.

That night started out like most Grindr hook-ups. Horny after a stressful day at function, Alan was in depend on of a release. A few taps and texts later, he found himself in the room of a cute twink. 

Everything went smoothly at first. But when the time for foreplay was over, Alan couldn’t rise to the occasion. That was when the frustrated twink made the remark, ironically destroying any hope of Alan getting it up.

The hook-up soured pretty quickly soon after. Neither party managed to unload. And Alan left rather abruptly.

For the twink, it was merely a case of horrible sex. But for Alan, that was the last time he ever tried to top.

Dear Straight People,

Erectile dysfunction (ED) is a condition that affects millions of men worldwide, same-sex attracted men included.

Contrary to famous belief, ED does not only affect older men. While its prevalence does tend to increase with age, ED affects men of all ages. The inability to sustain an erection can have many causes. But regardless of the

Tips for cis men who want to try sex with other cis men – in a safe and respectful way

To begin, I’d appreciate to clarify that this article is not necessarily about questioning your sexuality. Everyone should be able to scout their curiosities in a pleasurable and positive way, and it’s important to understand that you can try modern things without subscribing to any fixed labels. These tips are for cis men who desire to try sex with other cis men, in a safe and respectful manner.

Note: ‘cisgender men’ or ‘cis men’ refers to men who were assigned male at birth, based on having a penis and other biological characteristics, and identify as men too.Cis is the opposite of trans. We argue trans men morehere, andhere’s some help and advice about navigating sex and relationshipsfor trans men and trans masculine people.

1. Be trustworthy from the get-go that you’re curious

Whether you want to hook up with someone you’re already acquainted with (usually a gym bro, according to most porn), or you’ve been involved in a charged emoji swap on Grindr, honesty is fundamental from the beginning. Many queer people are empathetic