Why does gay sex feel so good
What Does Anal Sex Really Feel Like? Find Out From Men Who've Tried It.
Anal sex is in. To be fair, it’s been in for quite some time. The Ancient Sumerians were butt-stuffing thousands of years before you could order lube in bulk. Why? Because no matter what century you’re in, anal sex feels good!
Anal penetration can manage to bigger, better, “full body” orgasms for people with a prostate, since the backdoor is the access point for this sensitive gland. But prostate-owners aren’t the only ones who enjoy posterior pleasures—for vulva-owning receivers, anal sex can stimulate the similar pleasure centers that clear up during vaginal penetration.
“The clitoris is shaped love a wishbone, and for many, the clitoris extends all the way down to the anus,” explains Alicia Sinclair, sex educator and founder of the anal sex toy corporation b-Vibe. “Anal orgasms can happen through indirect stimulation of the G-spot and A-spot, through the joint wall between the vagina and rectum.”
No matter what kind of equipment you’re working with, there’s a dense concentration of nerve endings in the anus, and anal sex—when it’s done correctly, with lots of lube and carried on communicati
I'm a Woman Who's Sleeping With a Gay Human (Yes, He's Still Gay)
For the past year, I’ve been having regular sex with a gay gentleman I'll call Oliver. We were best friends for years, attending many Celebration parades and taking weekend hiking trips. But last year, after a very drunken night, we slept together—and we still are today. He maintains that he still is, and always has been, a gay man.
After the first time, we were predictably awkward and British about it. We laughed a bit that it had happened, and then we agreed we shouldn’t complete it again.
That lasted maybe three days. The first few months had all the expected exciting parts of sleeping with your best bud, but they were also tinged with this brand new fresh thing. Oliver had never been with a gal before, and he was completely unaware of what a vulva or a clitoris was. Fortunately, Oliver had the benefit of my feminist Orgasm Gap rants over the past five years, and took to the task of making me come with admirable tenacity. One of the sweetest moments of that year was discovery the book She Comes First on his bedside table.
Men I’ve slept with before often have this false bravado around sex, like they need
Life on the Bottom
I enjoyed a short-lived career on the bottom. My college boyfriend’s family lived in a duplex on Park Way, where we’d often slip away on weekends. Meals were rich and plentiful — foie gras, profiteroles, double magnums of Riesling, etc. — all of which I eagerly imbibed. Following one such decadent feast my freshman year, when we were still very much in the honeymoon phase of our first gay relationship, Dan and I retired to his bedroom and got to work. For weeks we’d been easing into penetration with me on the bottom, but the pain had proven prohibitive. Also at play was acute paranoia of involuntary defecation, something I’d been assured was a common, yet unwarranted, concern of bottoms.
Presumably though, most surveyed hadn’t recently gorged on three helpings of fattened goose liver. It’s unyielding to look someone in the eye after shitting their childhood bed — let alone date them for seven more years afterward — but that’s exactly what happened. What didn’t happen — and hasn’t since, really — was me back on the bottom.
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Maybe that’s why I’ve maintained an enviable respect for men and women who regularly get fucke
Gay sex is packed of both pain and pleasure, of both disgust and thrill. Before you begin your sexual journey as a gay man, be certain that you and your boyfriend are ready. Don’t lose your virginity to someone who doesn’t care for your well-being. Queer sex is a delicate process that requires patience and care. With that, here are the nine reasons why gay sex is simultaneously awful and amazing.
1. Preparation
Gay sex involves massive amounts of preparation. If you’re not already aware, men don’t have the innate lubrication that women have. Thus, the bottom needs to lube up and prepare inch by inch. Start out small and gradually increase in width. Once you sense comfortable with inserting an object identical in size to your partner’s penis, only then can you perform anal sex. Preparation is not something to bypass. Pain is inevitable during anal sex, but it doesn’t have to overwhelm the pleasure.
2. Pain
Pain is a necessary part of anal sex. Irrespective of all the preparation, you’ll still feel a bit uncomfortable, especially during your first age. The pain is akin to an aching sensation inside your body. The feeling is such a foreign sensation–because you’ve likely only had was
Why Gay Men Love Sex
Men, why is sex so important? There are the obvious reasons, like the powerful presence of testosterone in our bodies. And our “built-in” human yearn for for pleasure, connection, and affection.
But here’s another way to look at sex that gets less attention and goes a minute deeper. Perhaps we are looking for transcendence. Sex is one of the few experiences that grab us away from our daily, sometimes boring, lives.
Orgasm may be one of the only times we are fully present in the moment.
Transcendence doesn’t obtain much attention these days. We live busy lives. Few us of gaze to religion for transcendence anymore, and religious organizations that feel welcoming to gay men are tough to find.
And yet for most of us, something seems missing. Life can easily fall into a deadening routine of commute/work/commute again/gym/television/masturbation/eat/sleep and repeat. That, plus laundry.
“Men lead lives of quiet desperation,” said author Henry David Thoreau.
Some of us look for a feeling of transcendence with drugs or alcohol. That works great for the first few times but then we never seem to be competent to get back to those first experiences. It’s like a mean trick. A